Emotional Abuse

Hi all!

Mental Abuse is much more painful than physical abuse because you are consumed by your own thoughts.

General Idea:

In general, an emotionally abusive relationship occurs when there is a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviours that wear down a person's self-esteem and undermine their mental health. Emotional abuse's underlying goal is to control the other person by discrediting, isolating, and silencing them. It is one of the most difficult forms of abuse to identify because it can be subtle and insidious. It can, however, be overt and manipulative. In either case, emotional abuse can erode your self-esteem and cause you to question your perceptions and reality. Emotional abuse is the use of emotions to control another person to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate them. While dating and relationships are the most common, mental or emotional abuse can occur in any relationship, including friends, family members, and coworkers. Finally, you may feel trapped. Emotionally abused people are frequently too wounded to stay in the relationship, but they are also too afraid to leave. So, the cycle continues until you reach out to the proper therapist. A boy and a girl must give each other adequate space. That includes: 

1. Cheating accusations or other manifestations of jealousy and possessiveness. 

2. Constant monitoring or attempting to influence the other person's behaviour.

3. Constantly arguing or taking issues.

4. Condemn.

5. Gaslighting

6. Verbal and corporal abuse

7. Refusing to engage in the relationship

8. Accusing or blaming

9. Mixed Signals (Love you and at the same time not loving you)

10. Trivializing the other person's concerns

Impact:

According to research, the consequences of emotional abuse are just as severe as the consequences of physical abuse.  Except that your wounds are invisible to others, hidden beneath the self-doubt, worthlessness, and self-loathing you may feel. When you are subjected to severe and ongoing emotional abuse, you may lose your entire sense of self. Accusations, verbal abuse, name-calling, criticisms, and gaslighting can erode your sense of self to the point where you can no longer see yourself realistically. As a result, you may find yourself agreeing with the abuser and becoming internally critical. When this occurs, you become trapped in an abusive relationship, convinced that you will never be good enough for anyone else. Furthermore, emotional abuse can lead to a variety of health issues. Abuse's mental health consequences include depression, anxiety, and, in some cases, the development of an eating disorder. Emotional abuse can also have a physical impact. 

Authentic Experience and Theory Say: First, it creates tension in all situations. The second is about fear, such as what will happen if I do this, whether he/she will be angry with me or not, and whether he/she will blame the victim for nothing. The third is to act seem if our feelings don't matter, trivializing the other person's concerns. The fourth stage reconciliation is about pretending to love us and admitting wrongdoing, and then the last point is calm about pretending the fight never happened between us.

Healing: (You Need to heal yourself) 

1. Put yourself first.

2. Practice and communicate with your loved ones

3. Stop placing blame on yourself.

4. Recognize that you cannot repair them.

5. Avoid Interacting and Seek Counselling.

#Say No

BY PAVI

Ms. Janani Renganathan (Counselling Psychologist) & Referred Ms. Sherri Gordon (Bullying Prevention Expert). Thank you for your Insightful Thoughts.